Mature

assalamualaikum...

jika nak tahu kita matang atau tak, lihat dari segi bagaimana kita buat keputusan dalam menyelesaikan sesuatu masalah. Ini pendapat aku dan aku selalu melihat orang dengan cara begini. Rupa tak menggambarkan tahap kematangan kita tapi cara kita fikir yang menggambarkan kematangan kita.

But the fact is most of people judge other people from the look or appearance. Jarang aku nak jumpa orang yang nilai orang lain melalui cara dia berfikir.  The first impression always important. Tapi aku  selalu tak dapat nak bagi good first impression dekat orang lain.

Cara aku menilai orang, first thing is always have good first impression to other people. Then, bila aku makin rapat dengan orang tu, my second impression either change or same. Bergantung lah.

Sebenarnya aku nak cakap, we should act according our age. Bila kita dah berumur dalam 20 ke atas, i think we should think openly. Tapi jangan open sangat. Bagi aku jika kita ada masalah kecil we should not brag about it. Jangan nak besar-besarkan. We should ask the reason why it happen. Aku rasa masalah kecil ni patut diselesaikan dengan mudah.

Just ask to those who create the problem. Why you do this? Then listen to his or her explaination not just jump into conclusion. We are in our own world. We just know our own diary but not that person life. Orang tu pasti ada alasan.

Aku tak cakap aku dah matang. The level of matured is depend on the person.Kadang-kadang sesetengah orang matang bila berada di tempat awam but act childish bila dengan family.And vice versa. I still learn how to be a grown up woman. Walaupun muka aku macam budak2 but I will try at least how I am thinking.

Aku dah penat sebenarnya, penat dalam memikirkan masalah yang sangat remeh. Masalah yang dah lama berlaku but still not change. If the only one party think openly but the other side not, I think the problem would not solve.

Please la, buang ego tu. Buang sifat asyik nak merajuk, buang sifat yang boleh merosakkan hubungan. We just a human being and yes we always make mistakes. Sekarang bukan masanya untuk fikir yang He or she has to feel what I feel, but it is the time we should have to talk. Bincang dan cari punca masalah. Not hiding it. Yes, aku patut berfikir atas kasut orang lain but they also should think on my foot.

We have to think for the sake of everybody. You have to understand other people's mind. At least jaga hubungan antara manusia. Because that what Allah will ask us in the day of judgement.

p/s: this post may annoyed you, so again please ignore me. It is just me and my kata hati.